Perfection

Hey! 

In this post, we're gonna talk about perfection. What is perfection? What does it mean? What is the interpretation of perfection for an individual? These are some topics we'll be talking about in this post and the posts to come. 

What is perfection? By definition, perfection is " the state of being free from any kind of flaw or defect. " 

But is perfection really what we think it is? Because, as a law of nature, there is no living, or non living thing that can be perfect in any way. Every thing has some kind of flaw, or defect that stops it from being perfect. A really good looking person will probably have a huge pair of feet. The richest person in the world will never be able to sleep in peace, always being haunted by the thought of losing their wealth. The most popular person in the school will probably be craving for true friends. 

No one in the world is perfect. Everyone, everything and every being will always be imperfect. If this is the case, then why strive to be perfect? If no one is gonna be perfect in any way, why bother to try? Why not be just the way you are and not bother about being perfect?

The idea of being perfect, nowadays, is to be popular, have cool friends, be sexy and have the opposite/same sex fantasize about you. 

But, is this really the sense of perfection? Is not the idea of perfection for an artist, to be flawless in art? Is not the perception of being perfect for a writer, to be smooth and enchanting in the way of words? Is not the sense of being perfect in the mind of an athlete, to be better than every other athlete in sports? Is then, perfection not different for every individual? The answer, ultimately, is that perfection is a variable that is different for every individual. Everyone's sense of perfection is different. How someone percieves perfection, depends totally on them, and not on the common perception of being perfect.

Hence, it is really important that, as individuals with different abilities, different talents, different perceptions, to be perfect in our own way, to be flawless in what we love, to be happy in what we have in order to progress on an individual and social basis. 

To be perfect, in short, is to excel at living your life, your own way. 

If we behave in a way that is the behavior of the small, elite group of the popular, we actually choose to be a slave to the interpretation of perfection that only a small group of people have. 

Thus, we need to liberate our thoughts, find what we are good at, accept whatever it is, and be excellent at it. That, is perfection in its true sense. 

Alexander Alto. 

Recipe of acceptance, ingredient one.

When you are different, it is a general misconception amongst most that it is because you choose to be so. Normally, people will see you as a person who chooses to be different in an effort to be eccentric. That, however, is wrong in most cases. Most of who we are is decided by our genes, the composition of which we can not, in any case, in any way, control.
This brings us to the conclusion that who you are, is not exactly in your control. What IS however, in your control, is to make others accept you for who you are without changing your self.
But before you can make others accept you, you have to choose to accept your self. Remember, life cannot get better for you if you choose to keep it the way it is.
To accept your self, the first thing you have to do, is to keep your self esteem high. Always believe in your self, even if it might be difficult to do so sometimes. Keep your head high, you can not expect others to accept you right away but you can expect to find acceptance if you show others that you are secure within yourself. If someone bothers you, never let their humiliation affect you. Remember, until and unless you choose to let something affect you, you will remain the same.
When you have a high self esteem, when you believe in your self, you will find acceptance. You will see people respecting you. Recall the saying, "Charity starts at home". When you start something at home, when you practice something yourself, you can expect others to do the same if you ask them to.
In the same way, when you respect yourself from the within, you will find people respecting you. When you believe in yourself from the within, people will believe in you as one of them. When you keep your self esteem high, you can always expect to find others keeping the same esteem about you.
Thus, a key point to remember always, is to respect yourself, to never let people's humiliation bother you, to never let anyone affect you in any way, to always keep a high self esteem.
This, in short, is the first ingredient in a long list of ingredients for the recipe of getting others to accept you.

How To Stabilize Yourself

When you are different, the world will do whatever it an to not accept you. There will e catcalls, a lot of teasing, humiliation and insult thrown your way. And when this happens, most of us, the different people, tend to loose control of their emotions. We feel we need to take out all the emotions bottled up inside us. We feel like we have to let out the feeling that we can't express to the world.
But, always remember, whenever you feel left out, whenever you feel like the world doesn't accept you for who you are, whenever you feel life could not be worse, always think with your head. Never with your emotions. Never let your emotions take over your senses. Remember, the key to emotional stability is to think straight. When your emotions get the better of you, distract yourself. Do anything but think straight.
When you get shunned by people, when you've had a particularly bad encounter with someone who doesn't want to accept you, always trust yourself. Always trust yourself as the best. You do not answer to them for whatever you are. You don't need to worry for something that the world says to you. Remember, the world was made to talk about you. It's their job. You can't do anything about that except for stabilizing yourself.
Whenever we feel something very much, it is only natural that we want to take the feeling out. Expressing the feeling that you have, can prove to be quite a difficult job. For example, when somebody humiliates you, it is only natural that you would want to shout out at the person or, worse, undermine yourself.
There are, however, better ways to do this. You can, for example, go to the person in question and tell them politely, but firmly that you are bothered by their attitude and that they should refrain from insulting you.
A key point in distracting yourself and not doing so in a harmful way ( like thinking how bad you look) is to distract yourself in these ways.
Always keep in mind two things.
Firstly, to keep your feelings bottled up inside you can damage you emotionally as well as physically.
Secondly, to express your feelings in any way that might harm others, like shouting at your siblings, or you, like cutting your skin or, in severe cases, planning suicide, can damage you even more.
So, whenever you might feel emotionally inexpressive, always let out your emotions in healthy, unharmful ways. If you are not good at letting out your emotions in healthy ways, practice to do so and always think with your mind, so that you might not take decisions that you would regret later in life.
This is it for right now,
Time to sign off.
Alexander Alto. 

My Story.

I still remember the time when I was going through puberty. I would sit in the washroom and think to myself,
"Why am I different? When will that magical day come when I will be like others? Will I ever fit in with the right crowd? Will I ever be normal?"
And so, I would always be waiting for the day when, after puberty, I'd be a real man. A man with not only the right body, but a man in the real sense. A man like all the others. And whenever I would think this, my trust in myself would deteriorate. I would think of myself as a blasphemy, a thing to be pitied.
During this time, I separated myself from the world, not talking to friends, severing all connections with the world in an attempt to hide myself, to hide way from the cruel ways in which the world operated. That is, until I realized, that I was not answerable for being myself to the world. I was not a thing to be pitied but different. A beautiful human in my own right.
When this realization finally dawned on me right after puberty, I was amazed at who I could be if I wanted to be. I was shocked on seeing myself as a complete, whole person.
I hope that, through this blog, I can help people like me around the world to make themselves strong like I have become. To accept themselves and to enjoy life for what it is. 

My Introduction

To every one out there, greetings from a blogger intent on bringing about change without aiming to change anybody.
Let's go formal. My name is Alexander Alto and I have created this blog as a soul comforter to those of us around the world who, like me, are shunned out of the "in crowd" just because we are different.
On this blog, you will not only find first hand advice on how to get stable in a time of emotional chaos, you will also get advice on how to stay who you are and not change yourself to suit the world but change the world to suit you.
Any comments, good, or otherwise, are most welcome.